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> If a therapist isn't willing to work with you in the first couple of sessions to create a specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound plan for y
by magicalhippo 3y ago
> If a therapist isn't willing to work with you in the first couple of sessions to create a specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound plan for your therapy, you should be very wary.
I have a friend who's been in therapy for over a decade, due to debilitating anxiety from childhood trauma.
Went many years to first before switching to second, same story. I asked "well have you gotten any tasks or tools to help you deal with it?" multiple times, always same answer: "No".
Third time lucky it seems. Now seeing a therapist which comes with concrete suggestions and tasks. Things have improved. It's not a trivial problem to solve, but at least there's change now.
edit: You may ask, why stay with the therapists that didn't help? Anxiety... didn't want to upset the therapists by suggesting it wasn't helping.
- dyno12345 3y agotherapists have a responsibility to act in the best interests of clients who are not able to "manage" therapists well. this doesn't get discussed enough.
- em-bee 3y agoa friend of mine who is working as a therapist says she doesn't take any patients for more than half a year. if she can't help them in that time then she probably can't ever. another reason to stay with a therapist is outside pressure. and sometimes talking to someone does help a little bit in that it has a noticeable effect without improving things to the point that help is no longer needed, but that potentially leads to a dependency which is not good either.