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> emotional attachment to inanimate objects (to which she ascribed feelings of their own) This I have heard is a common element amongst hoarders and observed

> emotional attachment to inanimate objects (to which she ascribed feelings of their own) This I have heard is a common element amongst hoarders and observed it in a hoarding family member as well. Throwing things out was like killing a pet in front of them.

FeteCommuniste 3y ago
Not a hoarder but I do feel a little twinge in my heart if I see someone throw away plush toys or other things with faces. :-)
- vikingerik 3y ago
  I get that feeling in thrift stores, where those items show up sometimes. I always wonder what the history was. Was that some child's favorite plush and how did it end up in a thrift shop, or was it overlooked and unwanted and discarded? Either way it's a twinge of sadness, yeah. Even as an adult, I still have my few favorite stuffies from childhood. I'd never part with them (it's not hoarding, just one box), but I have no idea what happens to them when I pass on. Can't bear to dispose of them or leave instructions for that, but for anyone else to keep them they'd just take up space forever.
- mc32 3y ago
  It seems that that is appropriate. We ought to have some attachment, but also be able to rationalize and supersede emotions in order to qualify some things and then be able to say, this has little utility for me, it's time to move on. With an absence or suspension of emotion we could just become consumers who consume and dispose like a swarm of locusts.
- Roark66 3y ago
  >Not a hoarder but I do feel a little twinge in my heart if I see someone throw away plush toys or other things with faces. :-) Interesting, I get the same, but for electronics/anything mechanical. Also the longer I have some device the more attached I get to it.
  - Obscurity4340 3y ago
    Ever seen that Ikea commericial with the rejected lamp?
    - caseyohara 3y ago
      I love that ad. It was directed by Spike Jonze, which is very fitting. "Many of you feel bad for this lamp. That is because you're crazy; it has no feelings! And the new one is much better." Here's the 2002 original and 2018 redux: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ecTUnfHyj8k https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ecTUnfHyj8k More info: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lamp_(advertisement) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lamp_(advertisement)
  - SamPatt 3y ago
    I have computers from the 90s which I will almost certainly never touch again, but they played such a big role in my young life I can't seem to toss them. I keep thinking I'll boot them back up one day and show my kids.
    - npunt 3y ago
      Same. I think it's pretty normal to want to go back and visit the physical locations of our youth to relive the memories, but if the environments we grew up in were digital we lack a tangible memory to return to, so a substitute is holding onto the systems themselves.
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pavel_lishin 3y ago
I'm not a hoarder... I hope... but I definitely feel this. Whenever I have to throw something away, I have to explicitly ignore that little emotional twinge, as well as that voice inside my head that says, "... you can use this for something." If that emotional twinge were too much stronger, or if that voice was too much louder, I'd be in real trouble.
kulahan 3y ago
I know I was close to having a hoarding disorder because I feel this way. I get a new appliance or whatever, and I feel bad that what I'm replacing is going away. It's like losing a member of the team. Anyways, I forced myself to get used to throwing stuff away because I saw where it was going and got freaked out. Maybe I would've been a really minor case had I not tried to intervene at all, if such cases exist.

FeteCommuniste 3y ago

Not a hoarder but I do feel a little twinge in my heart if I see someone throw away plush toys or other things with faces. :-)

vikingerik 3y ago
I get that feeling in thrift stores, where those items show up sometimes. I always wonder what the history was. Was that some child's favorite plush and how did it end up in a thrift shop, or was it overlooked and unwanted and discarded? Either way it's a twinge of sadness, yeah. Even as an adult, I still have my few favorite stuffies from childhood. I'd never part with them (it's not hoarding, just one box), but I have no idea what happens to them when I pass on. Can't bear to dispose of them or leave instructions for that, but for anyone else to keep them they'd just take up space forever.
mc32 3y ago
It seems that that is appropriate. We ought to have some attachment, but also be able to rationalize and supersede emotions in order to qualify some things and then be able to say, this has little utility for me, it's time to move on. With an absence or suspension of emotion we could just become consumers who consume and dispose like a swarm of locusts.
Roark66 3y ago
>Not a hoarder but I do feel a little twinge in my heart if I see someone throw away plush toys or other things with faces. :-) Interesting, I get the same, but for electronics/anything mechanical. Also the longer I have some device the more attached I get to it.
- Obscurity4340 3y ago
  Ever seen that Ikea commericial with the rejected lamp?
  - caseyohara 3y ago
    I love that ad. It was directed by Spike Jonze, which is very fitting. "Many of you feel bad for this lamp. That is because you're crazy; it has no feelings! And the new one is much better." Here's the 2002 original and 2018 redux: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ecTUnfHyj8k https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ecTUnfHyj8k More info: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lamp_(advertisement) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lamp_(advertisement)
- SamPatt 3y ago
  I have computers from the 90s which I will almost certainly never touch again, but they played such a big role in my young life I can't seem to toss them. I keep thinking I'll boot them back up one day and show my kids.
  - npunt 3y ago
    Same. I think it's pretty normal to want to go back and visit the physical locations of our youth to relive the memories, but if the environments we grew up in were digital we lack a tangible memory to return to, so a substitute is holding onto the systems themselves.

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pavel_lishin 3y ago

I'm not a hoarder... I hope... but I definitely feel this. Whenever I have to throw something away, I have to explicitly ignore that little emotional twinge, as well as that voice inside my head that says, "... you can use this for something." If that emotional twinge were too much stronger, or if that voice was too much louder, I'd be in real trouble.

kulahan 3y ago

I know I was close to having a hoarding disorder because I feel this way. I get a new appliance or whatever, and I feel bad that what I'm replacing is going away. It's like losing a member of the team. Anyways, I forced myself to get used to throwing stuff away because I saw where it was going and got freaked out. Maybe I would've been a really minor case had I not tried to intervene at all, if such cases exist.