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Many people enjoy it

by awb 3y ago

wiseowise 3y ago
I never said it’s not enjoyable to some. But raising a human has enormous costs.
- awb 3y ago
  I guess I don’t understand what you mean by “wasteful” then.
  - wiseowise 3y ago
    Poor choice of words. I meant enormous costs compared to what you get out of it. Though latter is hard to quantify and depends on each family.
asimovfan 3y ago
They are probably lying (to themselves as well) because of the massive responsibility they feel for the child.
- awb 3y ago
  My experience raising kids and the experiences of many parents I know has been very enjoyable and rewarding.
  - asimovfan 3y ago
    "Building better startups. CTO, Consultant & Recruiter. Over 50 IPOs/Exits incl. Palantir, Fiverr, Okta, Elastic, BrightBytes (aq. Google)" I would assume because you had massive amounts of money you could treat raising a child like a recreational activity.. and even then i am betting there is a lot of pink glasses looking in the past involved
    - DeathArrow 3y ago
      I am much less wealthy than him and I think the same. Not all things in life are about money. I'd conjecture that there are more important things than money in life.
      - AnimalMuppet 3y ago
        "Money is like gas on a road trip. You don't want to run out of gas on the trip. But you aren't doing a tour of gas stations." Quoting from memory, so it may not be word for word. And I forget who I stole it from, but plausibly it was someone here. If so, sorry I don't have the source handy to be able to give you proper credit. But, yeah. I agree with the parent. Money matters, but it's not what matters most. If money is your bottom line, then you are impoverished in a way that more money cannot fix.
    - awb 3y ago
      Those assumptions are incorrect. Ever since I can remember as a little kid I wanted to be a Dad. My first big success came after my last child was born. When my first child was born I had just been laid off and was struggling to make ends meet. My highs in business aren’t even close to my highs as a Dad. Everyone’s experiences are different and true to them. I’m not trying to tell you that your experience or ideas of raising children should be the same as mine. But I’d be careful assuming that people who don’t think the same way as you about it are delusional or privileged.
      - asimovfan 3y ago
        I think you turned it into something philosophical about your "highs" but I was talking about the fact about simply how hard it is to look after a child, and how much drudgery and going crazy it involves this is why i also said having massive amounts of money helps make it one treat it like a recreational activity, like having someone to help clean the house, cook etc
        awb 3y ago
        I can’t really relate to your philosophy on this, but it is interesting to me. I enjoyed parenting just as much when I was struggling to make ends meet as I did when I had money.

Many people enjoy it

by awb 3y ago

Many people enjoy it

wiseowise 3y ago

I never said it’s not enjoyable to some. But raising a human has enormous costs.

awb 3y ago
I guess I don’t understand what you mean by “wasteful” then.
- wiseowise 3y ago
  Poor choice of words. I meant enormous costs compared to what you get out of it. Though latter is hard to quantify and depends on each family.

asimovfan 3y ago

They are probably lying (to themselves as well) because of the massive responsibility they feel for the child.

awb 3y ago
My experience raising kids and the experiences of many parents I know has been very enjoyable and rewarding.
- asimovfan 3y ago
  "Building better startups. CTO, Consultant & Recruiter. Over 50 IPOs/Exits incl. Palantir, Fiverr, Okta, Elastic, BrightBytes (aq. Google)" I would assume because you had massive amounts of money you could treat raising a child like a recreational activity.. and even then i am betting there is a lot of pink glasses looking in the past involved
  - DeathArrow 3y ago
    I am much less wealthy than him and I think the same. Not all things in life are about money. I'd conjecture that there are more important things than money in life.
    - AnimalMuppet 3y ago
      "Money is like gas on a road trip. You don't want to run out of gas on the trip. But you aren't doing a tour of gas stations." Quoting from memory, so it may not be word for word. And I forget who I stole it from, but plausibly it was someone here. If so, sorry I don't have the source handy to be able to give you proper credit. But, yeah. I agree with the parent. Money matters, but it's not what matters most. If money is your bottom line, then you are impoverished in a way that more money cannot fix.
  - awb 3y ago
    Those assumptions are incorrect. Ever since I can remember as a little kid I wanted to be a Dad. My first big success came after my last child was born. When my first child was born I had just been laid off and was struggling to make ends meet. My highs in business aren’t even close to my highs as a Dad. Everyone’s experiences are different and true to them. I’m not trying to tell you that your experience or ideas of raising children should be the same as mine. But I’d be careful assuming that people who don’t think the same way as you about it are delusional or privileged.
    - asimovfan 3y ago
      I think you turned it into something philosophical about your "highs" but I was talking about the fact about simply how hard it is to look after a child, and how much drudgery and going crazy it involves this is why i also said having massive amounts of money helps make it one treat it like a recreational activity, like having someone to help clean the house, cook etc
      - awb 3y ago
        I can’t really relate to your philosophy on this, but it is interesting to me. I enjoyed parenting just as much when I was struggling to make ends meet as I did when I had money.