Which is unfortunate because I find real-time communication (including in-person) puts pressure on people to appear to either know what they're talking about/ar

Which is unfortunate because I find real-time communication (including in-person) puts pressure on people to appear to either know what they're talking about/arguing against, or to do so as a means of thinking out loud but without any affordance for real dialectic; whereas everytime I've discussed ideas over email, wrestling with interlocuters, it has been significantly smoother sailing conveying and clarifying terms and implications, mutually. This likely depends on where you work/whom you work with, but nevertheless, "the right tool for the right job" seems betrayed when it comes to communication which affords no implied pause or space for reflection.