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That's really kind advice - I appreciate it. Luckily the folks pretty close-by, but you spelling all of that out really changes my perspective how hard it'll be

by speff 3y ago

That's really kind advice - I appreciate it. Luckily the folks pretty close-by, but you spelling all of that out really changes my perspective how hard it'll be. We got a young puppy a year back now which seemed like good practice - with the lack of sleep, constant attention, constant pooping/peeing. But yea, a baby's absolutely going to be another level's worth of difficult.

MarkMarine 3y ago
I thought a puppy was similar too, but we get a puppy at like 8 weeks old and someone else did the early care. The early care, when you have to feed constantly and you can’t even put them down in a bouncer to sleep… it’s taxing. But worth it. I was just reading my 2 year old a book before bed and I can confirm that it gets better. They are a lot of fun.
oblio 3y ago
Personal experience, I don't know if it's backed by studies. We think that there are a bunch of factors you can control that help reduce the risk, you probably know them: * sleep deprivation: take turns taking care of the baby and let the mom sleep whenever she can, naps during the day, when the baby is napping, when the baby is with you, etc; getting as much sleep is <<super important>> for the mom * moral support: no matter how much things suck, you're in this together; talk to the mom and ideally, make fun of the literally shitty situation :-) * as mentioned by others, get more help if you can; no shame in doing it, you said you were a military man, wouldn't you want to greatly outnumber "the enemy" (the baby)? :-p * take the longest leave possible, don't save PTO; you're probably not going anywhere interesting this year, use that time to offer support during this super stressful period. FYI, statistically the pressure goes down at about 3 months old and again at 6 months old.

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That's really kind advice - I appreciate it. Luckily the folks pretty close-by, but you spelling all of that out really changes my perspective how hard it'll be

by speff 3y ago

MarkMarine 3y ago
I thought a puppy was similar too, but we get a puppy at like 8 weeks old and someone else did the early care. The early care, when you have to feed constantly and you can’t even put them down in a bouncer to sleep… it’s taxing. But worth it. I was just reading my 2 year old a book before bed and I can confirm that it gets better. They are a lot of fun.
oblio 3y ago
Personal experience, I don't know if it's backed by studies. We think that there are a bunch of factors you can control that help reduce the risk, you probably know them: * sleep deprivation: take turns taking care of the baby and let the mom sleep whenever she can, naps during the day, when the baby is napping, when the baby is with you, etc; getting as much sleep is <<super important>> for the mom * moral support: no matter how much things suck, you're in this together; talk to the mom and ideally, make fun of the literally shitty situation :-) * as mentioned by others, get more help if you can; no shame in doing it, you said you were a military man, wouldn't you want to greatly outnumber "the enemy" (the baby)? :-p * take the longest leave possible, don't save PTO; you're probably not going anywhere interesting this year, use that time to offer support during this super stressful period. FYI, statistically the pressure goes down at about 3 months old and again at 6 months old.