Ah, so you don't understand how abuse works. You should probably think about it, and maybe read up on the subject before talking about it? People in abusive re

Ah, so you don't understand how abuse works. You should probably think about it, and maybe read up on the subject before talking about it? People in abusive relationships often perceive that there's no other option. They think they will be lost without the relationship, or that they will find no one better. People stick around for some really good reasons. Some people struggle to face uncertainty. Others lack the will to leave. Often, there was something that attracted them in the first place: love for the person, pride for ones job, ect. What's crazy is you'll see examples where none of this seems to be present... it's not necessary. People with great support systems fall for people/jobs, that never treated them well, and are even flat out disgusting and stupid. (literally or metaphorically, eg. a job can be "disgusting" because of harassment) We've all seen it. It's like "what do you see here"... but that's the thing about abuse. It's exactly what you're criticizing. Abusers see that the person can't and so will never leave the relationships, then they step in to do the abuse. So when the partner gets thrown down a flight of stairs and has her dog injured, he knows that she's gonna stay anyway. They've found a hack to exploit. So your questions are nonsensical. It's not their fault some shady person figured out how to hurt them. PS "Fan theory": I think there's probably some instinct in us to stay in bad relationships. First and foremost, any team is better than none. If you think throughout history, lots of relationships have been exploitative. Perhaps it's useful not to be the one that leaves and tries to make their own way. You'll just get picked off or rounded up. Very dark, especially considering how it effects women, who have had to put up with a lot to survive. It shouldn't be such a shock that so many women wind up in abusive relationships :(