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I believe this is useful for the author. I think the technique involves a bit of cognitive dissonance and I personally try to minimize that. Stresses me out. >

I believe this is useful for the author. I think the technique involves a bit of cognitive dissonance and I personally try to minimize that. Stresses me out. > … it is easy to make lists of everything one wants … > The real question behind defining [sic?] knowing what we want is actually what we are willing to sacrifice. “Want” gets redefined somewhere between the first and second to last paragraph. Sacrifice isn’t actually inherent to the want list. I imagine part of power of this technique is that you’re leading yourself to believe that you don’t want the things off the list. Maybe if you’re convincing enough you actually don’t? I’d be interested in what the author would think about the things on the first list and off the final draft. Do they still want them? I don’t know. In writing this out, it may be less dissonance and more conversion. I think I’d like to try this out. For myself, I just want to be sure I don’t act like I never wanted those things in the first place. More like saying goodbye to them. Or maybe it’s like team tryouts? You can want 100 players on your team. But there are also the 25 players you really want, that get their name on the short list.

Hermitian909 3y ago
> “Want” gets redefined somewhere between the first and second to last paragraph I think I get what the author is going for. English lacks words to describe the degree to which you want something paired with how seriously you're willing to pursue it. A word that means "I desire this enough to seriously work for it given the sacrifices required" would be really useful and I've found quite a few people pull the same semantic trick with want that the author does as a way to communicate it. Certainly, trying to push this idea into my mentees' minds is something I've had to spend an unfortunately large amount of time doing given how intuitive it feels like it should be.
- avereveard 3y ago
  Yearn crave desire wish fancy dream just to name an unsorted few. I cannot put them on two axis here, but there's plenty of words with embedded the pull and the seriousness of the want.
  - travisjungroth 3y ago
    I’d say those are all lower than want on the “seriousness” dimension. Above want (but maybe off in other ways) I’d put plan, intent, intention, goal, objective, and pursuit.

Hermitian909 3y ago

> “Want” gets redefined somewhere between the first and second to last paragraph I think I get what the author is going for. English lacks words to describe the degree to which you want something paired with how seriously you're willing to pursue it. A word that means "I desire this enough to seriously work for it given the sacrifices required" would be really useful and I've found quite a few people pull the same semantic trick with want that the author does as a way to communicate it. Certainly, trying to push this idea into my mentees' minds is something I've had to spend an unfortunately large amount of time doing given how intuitive it feels like it should be.

avereveard 3y ago
Yearn crave desire wish fancy dream just to name an unsorted few. I cannot put them on two axis here, but there's plenty of words with embedded the pull and the seriousness of the want.
- travisjungroth 3y ago
  I’d say those are all lower than want on the “seriousness” dimension. Above want (but maybe off in other ways) I’d put plan, intent, intention, goal, objective, and pursuit.