If your point is that life's hard, or that patriarchy is also bad for men, I certainly agree. But neither of those prevents me from recognizing the specific way

If your point is that life's hard, or that patriarchy is also bad for men, I certainly agree. But neither of those prevents me from recognizing the specific ways that patriarchy is bad for women. Indeed, you might consider that a guy leaping in to a point about misogyny to tangentially focus the discussion back on a man's feelings is an example of the problem.