In The Netherlands, going for a second opinion is a right (under insurance). And my experience with a dentist who wanted to suddenly remove a molar (without ask

In The Netherlands, going for a second opinion is a right (under insurance). And my experience with a dentist who wanted to suddenly remove a molar (without asking me, he already had the anesthetic ready) left me bewildered. Especially since it was a dentist organization for people with anxiety. NB: I have needle phobia, but not dentist phobia. Then he started to guilt trip me cause he already grabbed the anesthetic, but I said that didn't work on me. He threatened it'd be billed, not sure whether that happened in the end but if I was consciously aware of it I wouldn't have paid. Tho I'd just lost my father and got into a long term relationship as well, so my mind was elsewhere. Then I went to a different dentist (I had to cause I moved) and he had the wait and see approach. I didn't tell you yet that I had a chronic inflammation (abscess) under the molar. A year or so later, I finally went to the dental stomatologist and he suggested oxazepam. What an experience (both the drug and the removal of the inflammation). Then the healing process came. And I even had some stomach pains from all the ibuprofen (too long w/o stomach protector). Ever since that I always use a stomach protector with ibuprofen, just to be sure. No stomach protector, no ibuprofen. We were very happy with this dentist. Since it became a bit too impractical we now are at yet another dentist who's in our neighborhood and literally next to our kid's school. Very practical, but we were happier with the previous dentist. Now our 3 year old has damage on all 4 of his milk canines, having damaged tooth enamel. We don't know what or why, only difference I can tell with his older sister is he's been going on with breastfeeding longer, and he liked chewing on stuff more than her (his teeth and mouth also have a bit different form; more my wife's than mine). The rest seems fine. The dentist guilt tripped us into that I'd probably not been brushing his teeth well enough (because of COVID my wife was waiting with our daughter, she'd have given him a firm reply but I just listened and took it in), but I'm pretty sure we did this correct (perhaps too well?); twice a day since his first tooth showed up. So I'm considering going for a second opinion. The beauty is my kids are freely insured for teeth until their 18th in The Netherlands, after that they're on their own. But until then, the government takes care of their costs. I know it ain't like that in certain other (even rich) countries.