You’re content to listen to what we tell you? Great. Then let me tell you, as a mother of two, that bearing children is not “the most sublime fulfillment” of my

You’re content to listen to what we tell you? Great. Then let me tell you, as a mother of two, that bearing children is not “the most sublime fulfillment” of my biological “design” or my “destiny.” I love my children to pieces. Being a parent is the best thing I have ever done with my life. But if I could have done it without the trauma of pregnancy and childbirth, I’d have a bigger family. I mourn the children I didn’t get to have because my body couldn’t do it. If my granddaughters get to skip some or all of that, I’ll be thrilled for them. Some mothers find pregnancy and childbirth to be a deep, sublime, spiritual experience, the best thing they’ve ever done. Some mothers are miserable every minute of it: sick, traumatized, afraid. You do not have the right to speak for all of us when you’re quoting just those of us whose experience reinforces your opinions about how the world should work.