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My wife and I were high school sweethearts and got married out of college. When people ask us how we made it work, I always say that during college we grew and
by sheepybloke 3y ago
My wife and I were high school sweethearts and got married out of college. When people ask us how we made it work, I always say that during college we grew and changed together. We had hard times and we worked through it, as we learned and grew we worked together and compromised. We grew up together through college. When you have a long term partner, they soften your edges. I don't think people want to have their edges softened anymore, which makes compromise and sacrifice less and less common. Note that this is not to say you should just settle for anyone, but I don't believe we as humans are puzzle pieces.
- grvdrm 3y agoI can't related to the timeline of your relationship but I love your phrasing "soften your edges" - that is so great. Completely agree with you. Strong relationships survive on compromise and very strong communication about the ebb and flow of one partner's compromise vs. the other. But everyone has things they want. One way (IMO) to be a great partner is to learn when to proactively soften your own edges vs. being told to do so.
- newt_slowly 3y agoI completely agree; the same thing happened to me with me and my wife. The risk of marrying/pairing off early is that you can grow apart in your 20's, but the reward is that you can grow together in a way that I think is harder to do later in life. I feel that my wife and I grew from two individuals into one partnership in a way that we couldn't have replicated if we met later in life.