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Let's be honest about double standards here. People are absolutely losing their minds because they feel personally attacked because they are promiscuous. I'm a

Let's be honest about double standards here. People are absolutely losing their minds because they feel personally attacked because they are promiscuous. I'm a woman who married her husband, and was extremely picky about marrying someone who wasn't promiscuous (low number of sexual partners). I have two sons, and a daughter. As a mother you absolutely see the double standards in a couple ways. Women on tiktok, instagram, and other social media constantly shame men for being under 6 feet. I'm Korean, and I see Asian men being shamed from being under 5'7 in Asian! Any male preferences get demonized, while female preferences get revered. It makes me worried for my kids. I don't want my daughter to grow up without a grasp on reality, and I don't want my sons being doormats.

manuelabeledo 3y ago
> Any male preferences get demonized, while female preferences get revered. Let's preface with the fact that I am a male. What I have seen is the complete opposite. We males aren't "demonized" for being promiscuous, quite the opposite in fact. Females are outright called "sluts". What you see on the internet is a drop in the bucket. Social media will default to exaggerated points of view, because they generate engagement. Kids will outgrow these fake trends at some point.
- willcipriano 3y ago
  Women prefer attached/promiscuous men. Women's attraction is largely influenced by social signaling. https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-men-when-other-women-like-them-2018-1 https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-...
  - manuelabeledo 3y ago
    > Women prefer attached/promiscuous men. Women's attraction is largely influenced by social signaling. Nowhere in the article says that women prefer "promiscuous" men, but men regarded as "attractive" by other women. It also does not justify the fact that women are regarded more negatively when they have had multiple sexual partners, compared to men.
    - willcipriano 3y ago
      > Nowhere in the article says that women prefer "promiscuous" men, but men regarded as "attractive" by other women. What do women do with the men they are attracted to, generally speaking? Is there anything women could use as a informal gauge as to how attractive other women find any particular man? > It also does not justify the fact that women are regarded more negatively when they have had multiple sexual partners, compared to men. Oh OK, so when 5 foot tall women should stop being creepy and preferring men taller than them right? Their preferences are unbalanced and unjustified correct?
      - manuelabeledo 3y ago
        > What do women do with the men they are attracted to, generally speaking? Is there anything women could use as a informal gauge as to how attractive other women find any particular man? Have you even read the article you yourself posted? > Oh OK, so when 5 foot tall women should stop being creepy and preferring men taller than them right? Their preferences are unbalanced and unjustified correct? I honestly cannot believe I would have to explain this to a seemingly functional adult. We are talking about the imbalance in how sexual activity is regarded depending on gender. Preferring taller or shorter partners is not "creepy", same as in choosing between blondes or brunettes. No one, outside the constant noise that is social media, is going to chastise you for choosing one or another. Asking about "body count" before dating someone is creepy, because our society regards this as a private matter. Even worse, as I said, men get a pass on this, and women do not. It blows my mind that anyone would be trying to compare one to another, and even tried to spin it into "promiscuous men are more preferable among women anyway". What the hell?
        willcipriano 3y ago
        So its creepy because: > our society regards this as a private matter. Why is that? We haven't reached the objective bedrock that opinion is based on yet, we are still in feelings land.
        3y ago
- johnnyanmac 3y ago
  I don't think they were talking about a specific trait here. It's simply that any filters/preference women have at all are seen as giving power to women. If a male even has preference in race/religion it's seen as close minded. Political views are about the only "good filter", but you're just putting a huge target on your back anyway.
  - manuelabeledo 3y ago
    I still don’t get how some men are so keen to be perceived as victims here. For centuries, the vast majority of women didn’t have the luxury of choosing. To this day, most men still discriminate on the basis on religion, race, or politics when looking for partners. What are these men complaining about? > Political views are about the only "good filter", but you're just putting a huge target on your back anyway. Yes, most women wouldn’t fuck conservatives because they despise their ideals. Perhaps the issue here is the lack of self awareness among conservatives, then.
    - johnnyanmac 3y ago
      >I still don’t get how some men are so keen to be perceived as victims here. I see it less about victims and more about empathy. You can understand the historical burden minorities and women have had and also still sympathize with modern dating scene, for men and women alike.

manuelabeledo 3y ago

> Any male preferences get demonized, while female preferences get revered. Let's preface with the fact that I am a male. What I have seen is the complete opposite. We males aren't "demonized" for being promiscuous, quite the opposite in fact. Females are outright called "sluts". What you see on the internet is a drop in the bucket. Social media will default to exaggerated points of view, because they generate engagement. Kids will outgrow these fake trends at some point.

willcipriano 3y ago
Women prefer attached/promiscuous men. Women's attraction is largely influenced by social signaling. https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-men-when-other-women-like-them-2018-1 https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-...
- manuelabeledo 3y ago
  > Women prefer attached/promiscuous men. Women's attraction is largely influenced by social signaling. Nowhere in the article says that women prefer "promiscuous" men, but men regarded as "attractive" by other women. It also does not justify the fact that women are regarded more negatively when they have had multiple sexual partners, compared to men.
  - willcipriano 3y ago
    > Nowhere in the article says that women prefer "promiscuous" men, but men regarded as "attractive" by other women. What do women do with the men they are attracted to, generally speaking? Is there anything women could use as a informal gauge as to how attractive other women find any particular man? > It also does not justify the fact that women are regarded more negatively when they have had multiple sexual partners, compared to men. Oh OK, so when 5 foot tall women should stop being creepy and preferring men taller than them right? Their preferences are unbalanced and unjustified correct?
    - manuelabeledo 3y ago
      > What do women do with the men they are attracted to, generally speaking? Is there anything women could use as a informal gauge as to how attractive other women find any particular man? Have you even read the article you yourself posted? > Oh OK, so when 5 foot tall women should stop being creepy and preferring men taller than them right? Their preferences are unbalanced and unjustified correct? I honestly cannot believe I would have to explain this to a seemingly functional adult. We are talking about the imbalance in how sexual activity is regarded depending on gender. Preferring taller or shorter partners is not "creepy", same as in choosing between blondes or brunettes. No one, outside the constant noise that is social media, is going to chastise you for choosing one or another. Asking about "body count" before dating someone is creepy, because our society regards this as a private matter. Even worse, as I said, men get a pass on this, and women do not. It blows my mind that anyone would be trying to compare one to another, and even tried to spin it into "promiscuous men are more preferable among women anyway". What the hell?
      - willcipriano 3y ago
        So its creepy because: > our society regards this as a private matter. Why is that? We haven't reached the objective bedrock that opinion is based on yet, we are still in feelings land.
        3y ago
johnnyanmac 3y ago
I don't think they were talking about a specific trait here. It's simply that any filters/preference women have at all are seen as giving power to women. If a male even has preference in race/religion it's seen as close minded. Political views are about the only "good filter", but you're just putting a huge target on your back anyway.
- manuelabeledo 3y ago
  I still don’t get how some men are so keen to be perceived as victims here. For centuries, the vast majority of women didn’t have the luxury of choosing. To this day, most men still discriminate on the basis on religion, race, or politics when looking for partners. What are these men complaining about? > Political views are about the only "good filter", but you're just putting a huge target on your back anyway. Yes, most women wouldn’t fuck conservatives because they despise their ideals. Perhaps the issue here is the lack of self awareness among conservatives, then.
  - johnnyanmac 3y ago
    >I still don’t get how some men are so keen to be perceived as victims here. I see it less about victims and more about empathy. You can understand the historical burden minorities and women have had and also still sympathize with modern dating scene, for men and women alike.