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The fact that the answerer quotes John McIlhenny, noted Christian abstinence-only prominent, tells me more about that answerer than the questioner. In my exper
by postmodest 3y ago
The fact that the answerer quotes John McIlhenny, noted Christian abstinence-only prominent, tells me more about that answerer than the questioner.
In my experience, the real answer is that The Pill means that women have more choice now and don't have to cleave themselves to the first man who colonizes them, and now that it's baked into society, women aren't going to put up with men who can't provide the social interaction reward that all people want. In my parents day, you just had to tough it out because you had kids (and you were probably terrible at it, lookin'at you mom and dad) but these days people can grow into functional adults first, which might not happen until their late 30's.
- scns 3y ago> these days people can grow into functional adults first, which might not happen until their late 30's. Some (many?) won't. Adult means taking responsibility for your own actions to me. In "archaic" societies, girls become women at the onset of their period. Boys have to undergo painful rituals to become a man. No puberty problems or teenage suicides in sight because these young humans have their place in the tribe and are treated like the young adults they are. No artificial age barriers (18/21). The brain is actually done at myelinizing at 25.
- heavenlyblue 3y agoYou mean kids just kill themselves if they can't cope and then people like you rationalise it as "they were not good enough anyway"?
- DiggyJohnson 3y ago> these days people can grow into functional adults first, which might not happen until their late 30's. Leaving the rest of the conversation aside, I find this perspective shocking. Becoming a "functional adult" cannot happen in late 30s, or we're all screwed.