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I think this is a silly Disney view. I don’t think it’s about the history and the sunk cost specifically, but taking the difficult path to learning compromise,

I think this is a silly Disney view. I don’t think it’s about the history and the sunk cost specifically, but taking the difficult path to learning compromise, communication, patience and forgiveness. That takes a lot of time, decades at least, and it requires having enough incentive to stay together that you work through the rough patches to the other side where you grow instead of breaking up at the first sign of trouble. If there’s a correlation between number of partners and divorce rates, it’s because someone is consistently failing to learn how to be a better partner.

tcmb 3y ago
It sounds like you're supporting OP's view. If someone hasn't put it the time and effort to learn these compromises, communication, patience, and forgiveness previously, why would they do it now with you after they meet you at age 40?
- scns 3y ago
  You are right, they won't. Those who worked on themselves, instead of blaming others, will.
  - wolverine876 3y ago
    Yes, yes, yes!
wolverine876 3y ago
> forgiveness There's an excellent film by Miranda July, The Future, where an older person is discussing relationships with a 30-something having a difficult time in marriage. The older person says that they haven't experienced a real relationship yet because, 'neither of you has done something unforgivable'. (All based on uncertain memory from years ago.)