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Do no let society tell you that you are being judgemental because you apply basic wisdom to the situation. Of course your bond won't be as strong if she already

Do no let society tell you that you are being judgemental because you apply basic wisdom to the situation. Of course your bond won't be as strong if she already experienced the same exact bond and maybe a stronger bond with 20 other men in the past, and then chose to break it and move on. Your only problem is that you are just as promiscuous so you stand on thin ice when you try to demand better from her.

phailhaus 3y ago
> if she already experienced the same exact bond and maybe a stronger bond with 20 other men in the past Says who? I don't know what's so hard to understand about this. How many friends have you had over the years? Should your current friends be wary of the fact that your "friend count" is so high? Seems like your bond with them is pretty weak if you had the same exact bond with hundreds of people in the past, and they should steer clear of you. The idea that you should commit to the first friends you make is just as absurd for partners.
- kibwen 3y ago
  Hear hear. If someone happens to find a spouse on their first try, then good for them. Otherwise, keep looking. Clinging to your first relationship merely because they're your first is an indicator of personal insecurity and/or desperation, and you'll be a better partner once you learn to work past that.
- mensetmanusman 3y ago
  There is different evolutionary biology behind sec than there is friendship. Analogy breaks quickly.
  - phailhaus 3y ago
    Uh, marriage is not just about sex. Most of marriage is not about sex, actually.
timacles 3y ago
This basic wisdom sounds like a child's view of human relationships and emotions. Like someone approximating what things should be like rather than what they actually are. It honestly just reads like misogyny, like women who have many partners are emotionally incapable of love. Let me tell you a secret, any semi-attractive & social woman will have easily had 20 partners by age 25-30. Theres no such thing as the "same exact" pair bond 20 times. Each one is different. And if something is of a certain strength, then how can it be weaker because it happened before? The only way what you're saying is true is if the person was jaded by the previous relationships and can no longer form deep connections. Emotions are infinite.
- mustafa_pasi 3y ago
  Why would I listen to you on this topic when your demographic has a worse track record on this matter? Within my community people lead happy lifelong marriages. Why should I listen to your "wisdom" instead of theirs? You can call me misogynistic, I don't care, but then so are all the women in my community. If we take a worldwide survey I would bet my views are more common than yours. People who sleep around a lot are less capable of long term love. I believe that and it is backed by research on the matter as well. If you care you can read about sociosexuality. That there is a relationship between attractivness and promiscuity amongst women is something I disagree with. But it would not make a difference either way. Most breakups from a serious relationship do end up with the people being jaded. Emotions are definitely notinfinite. Quite the opposite. BTW to not mislead anyone I am an atheist and grew up as a mainstream Catholic from Germany.
- uwagar 3y ago
  >Let me tell you a secret, any semi-attractive & social woman will have easily had 20 partners by age 25-30. depressing.

phailhaus 3y ago

> if she already experienced the same exact bond and maybe a stronger bond with 20 other men in the past Says who? I don't know what's so hard to understand about this. How many friends have you had over the years? Should your current friends be wary of the fact that your "friend count" is so high? Seems like your bond with them is pretty weak if you had the same exact bond with hundreds of people in the past, and they should steer clear of you. The idea that you should commit to the first friends you make is just as absurd for partners.

kibwen 3y ago
Hear hear. If someone happens to find a spouse on their first try, then good for them. Otherwise, keep looking. Clinging to your first relationship merely because they're your first is an indicator of personal insecurity and/or desperation, and you'll be a better partner once you learn to work past that.
mensetmanusman 3y ago
There is different evolutionary biology behind sec than there is friendship. Analogy breaks quickly.
- phailhaus 3y ago
  Uh, marriage is not just about sex. Most of marriage is not about sex, actually.

timacles 3y ago

This basic wisdom sounds like a child's view of human relationships and emotions. Like someone approximating what things should be like rather than what they actually are. It honestly just reads like misogyny, like women who have many partners are emotionally incapable of love. Let me tell you a secret, any semi-attractive & social woman will have easily had 20 partners by age 25-30. Theres no such thing as the "same exact" pair bond 20 times. Each one is different. And if something is of a certain strength, then how can it be weaker because it happened before? The only way what you're saying is true is if the person was jaded by the previous relationships and can no longer form deep connections. Emotions are infinite.

mustafa_pasi 3y ago
Why would I listen to you on this topic when your demographic has a worse track record on this matter? Within my community people lead happy lifelong marriages. Why should I listen to your "wisdom" instead of theirs? You can call me misogynistic, I don't care, but then so are all the women in my community. If we take a worldwide survey I would bet my views are more common than yours. People who sleep around a lot are less capable of long term love. I believe that and it is backed by research on the matter as well. If you care you can read about sociosexuality. That there is a relationship between attractivness and promiscuity amongst women is something I disagree with. But it would not make a difference either way. Most breakups from a serious relationship do end up with the people being jaded. Emotions are definitely notinfinite. Quite the opposite. BTW to not mislead anyone I am an atheist and grew up as a mainstream Catholic from Germany.
uwagar 3y ago
>Let me tell you a secret, any semi-attractive & social woman will have easily had 20 partners by age 25-30. depressing.