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Heaven forbid we value contentment in society, can’t have that now can we.
by asynchronous 3y ago
Heaven forbid we value contentment in society, can’t have that now can we.
- pjc50 3y agoPeople need to distinguish better between commitment and coercion.
- wruza 3y agoThis coin has two playable sides.
- hypertele-Xii 3y agoVoluntary commitment is self-coercion. All discipline is. The trick is, it's worth it. But some people are so allergic to external and internal control that they enter a never-ending self-destructive spiral of "personal freedom at any cost".
- asynchronous 3y agoI actually really love this quote, I’m saving it. Thank you random citizen.
- kibwen 3y ago> some people are so allergic to external and internal control that they enter a never-ending self-destructive spiral of "personal freedom at any cost" The sort of people you describe have no effect on the number of divorces, because they're not getting married in the first place.
- kibwen 3y agoYou haven't known discontentment until you've seen an elderly couple like my in-laws who live in the same house while despising each other, yet refusing to divorce because it's against their religion. They don't do anything together, they don't speak beyond the absolute necessities, and they don't sleep in the same bedroom. The husband has been openly cheating on the wife for years (and she has evidence, because the husband of the woman he's cheating with tracked her down and mailed her photographic evidence). She calls my partner all the time lamenting how awful her life is and how she can't wait for him to die so she can be free. Don't lecture us on the contentment of marriage without acknowledging what the other side of the coin is. This was the reality of marriage before divorce was normalized.