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There's another way to look at this. When your partner has had many previous partners, it means that you are extra special, because even after all that prior ex

• distant_hat 3y ago
  Knowing many women who had north of 50-100 partners, 'extra special' certainly isn't the case. Usually they are settling down because no one wants to stick with them and you are likely to be the next one who will abandon them. If this logic made sense, sex workers would be the most sought after partners.
  • quotz 3y ago
    I know a few girls who had more than 50 partners and they are all basically girls you would not even consider for a one night stand, let alone date.
• heattemp99 3y ago
  They did not "choose you". They could not get any of the others to commit.
  • Cthulhu_ 3y ago
    That's... really making a lot of assumptions. What do you mean by "get any of the others to commit"? That's saying the woman in question had to apply force, and that it was ultimately the other's fault they didn't settle. I can go on, but, it sounds like you and many others in this subthread have some really weird and ingrained manosphere-sounding ideas about women and relationships.
    • fakedang 3y ago
      It just means that you were the easiest one she could settle with, and likewise who chose to settle down with her.
    • Levitz 3y ago
      Let's cut it 50/50, let's say she has broken up in 11 occasions. Does it really make sense for you to consider that she has a good eye for compatibility? To trust her judgement that she will stay with you?
• drekipus 3y ago
  I say that for every house plant that died in my care. "You're the special one, #237, it's you and me bud."
  • kaba0 3y ago
    If there were 23 relationships that is indeed a red flag. But casual sex is not a relationship, no sin and no one should be condemned for that.
    • Levitz 3y ago
      This points to another worrying trend I've seen among teenagers and 20-something people. I've often seen them commenting how they have had absolutely ridiculous amounts of relationships, like a 24 year old saying she has had 11 boyfriends. It's like casual sex has become to prevalent that they think that's what a stable relationship is. I can't really fathom the logic.
      • kaba0 3y ago
        You are extrapolating way too much from your limited data — in fact, younger generations have less sex than those before, as per a study linked in this thread.
• wiseowise 3y ago
  > When your partner has had many previous partners, it means that you are extra special, because even after all that prior experience, they choose you! …that’s not how it works.
• wruza 3y ago
  A popular statistical advice is to meet N people (30..100), determine the level of “bestness” (ignoring extraordinary anomalies) and then to continue until you find something like that again. Calculating chances of being that last person is left as an exercise to the reader.
  • 331c8c71 3y ago
    Somewhat interesting as a model, completely irrelevant as a guiding principle in real life (imo)...