I agree, put the decision in their hands, if they don't match than they have made their choice and will have to deal with whatever issue arise from not compensa

I agree, put the decision in their hands, if they don't match than they have made their choice and will have to deal with whatever issue arise from not compensating you at market rate. While there are a lot of reasons to work for a company and some companies earn more loyalty than others, the end result is that we work to support ourselves, if we did not have to, chances are we would be working on our own interests. I know I would be, so in the end you are working for compensation, if someone offers you more compensation it is rational that you will take it, anyone who would get upset by that is not being rational about the situation and a rational person, will understand that they either need to match the offer or let you pursue supporting yourself to the best of your abilities.