I'll be very open: I find it unfortunate when I take the time to write out my thinking at length without seeing much result. Maybe it had some effect or maybe n

I'll be very open: I find it unfortunate when I take the time to write out my thinking at length without seeing much result. Maybe it had some effect or maybe not. Either way, so far, you seem stuck on the topic of "was this an insult?". (It seems like a tiny train wreck to me.) I didn't intend it to be an insult (see other comments, with detailed explanations). You could take me at my word. That would enable follow-up discussion of more valuable things. I'm not saying I get to nail down exactly what "valuable" means. By valuable, I just mean things that benefit all people involved over a longer term. I intentionally left the details vague. I'm not asking you to agree with everything I say. I don't want that at all. But I am asking you to go broader and discuss something more. I think we can build bridges. Questioning motives (in the pejorative sense, meaning 'assuming the worst') goes in the opposite direction. A tiny train wreck may seem unimportant. True. It is nothing to worry about when it happens once. But when you look across human communication, this pattern happens what millions a times a day over textual communication channels. It adds up. I want to do something small to help fix this. It is a "bug" with the software people have in their heads. It is a really big deal; it underlies so many disagreements and misunderstandings. If uncorrected, friends and family members sever relationships, often largely due to this underlying bug. (i.e. "She intended to X, and I can't stand for that.") I believe we need to socialize that assuming intent is an active contributor to damaging our social connections and therefore world. Think I'm exaggerating? Tell me. What small changes can we realistically make to many people's worldview that would have as big of an effect? This is one of the biggest ones, and it is a relatively easy sell.