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I think it's being used endearingly, regardless of the person's gender. I see your point though and can understand how it may make you feel as a transwoman.
by extasia 3y ago
I think it's being used endearingly, regardless of the person's gender.
I see your point though and can understand how it may make you feel as a transwoman.
How might one achieve the same effect with different phrasing?
- seertaak 3y agoHeya, I really appreciate you actually listening to what I said, instead of splitting hairs and arguing with me! Empathy is such a lovely quality. To answer your question, I would (did, hihi) drop the 'man'. If you want to remain 'folksy', you could say 'my friend, ...'. Finally, I agree that it was used endearingly - that's why my comment was pretty milquetoast :) I recognize I'm asking you to do something 'extra'. I really appreciate it!
- extasia 3y agoThanks, yeah! Empathy is wonderful:) Might be a regional thing but "my friend" sounds very condescending / patronising to me! I'd personally feel quite upset if somebody began a critique of my behaviour with that. I guess "buddy" or "mate" might work though!
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