From what I can tell, what you're describing is exactly my partner's experience: she really can't help it. Try as she might, it comes out anyway. I should lear

From what I can tell, what you're describing is exactly my partner's experience: she really can't help it. Try as she might, it comes out anyway. I should learn to better control how I react. (As it happens, she is francophone, but I'm not sure it's relevant as we mostly talk to each other in English.)