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"For some reason having concern for friends is now puritanical" -- it's difficult for me to reconcile your claim to have concern for your friends while also vil
by rc5150 3y ago
"For some reason having concern for friends is now puritanical" -- it's difficult for me to reconcile your claim to have concern for your friends while also vilifying them for being "potheads" or "degenerates"?
Not really trying to insult you, that wasn't my intent, but in an era in society where personal autonomy and agency is becoming paramount to societal influence it makes damn near no sense that you're so worked up over someone else's personal choices.
Notice I don't disagree with the presented findings, how cannabis addiction isn't a boogeyman or false flag, it's can become a chemical dependency, but I do disagree with your stance of wanting to police the behavior of others to fit your own perspective, despite calling it 'concern' or 'caring about the people around me'.
If you were my friend, I'd tell you to mind your own business then eventually lose your number. I'm an adult, I take my own calculated risks and understand the consequences of my actions.
- ketzo 3y agoThat’s an incredibly depressing way to look at friendship, frankly. OP is clearly not upset about “personal choices” — they are sad to see their friends become visibly worse versions of themselves. Expressing concern about troubling patterns of behavior is one of the greatest things a friend could do for me.
- skinnymuch 3y agoAsking someone to get off weed for a few days isn’t expressing concern. If I did that to everyone I know who can’t stop caffeine, I’d be the asshole.
- rc5150 3y agoVisibly worse versions of themselves, according to whose standards? Apparently the standards of someone who doesn’t use cannabis on any level, so thereby doesn’t really have the authority to determine whether his friends who are high are better off or worse off. I just can’t see anything other than someone making value judgements of their “friends”.
- Shocka1 3y agoApologies in advance if I'm taking your comment wrong. Anecdotal here, but I've had two friends in particular who at one point completely blew their lives up because of their inability to stop using THC. At the right time I would bring it up to both of them, and made it clear I would support them and be there for them no matter what. At this time one has been THC free for over two years, while the other is still in over their head. Both have always been appreciative of what I had to say, and I'm still great friends with them. If a friend is becoming unhealthier and squandering opportunities because of a plant, substance, or whatever, it is completely okay to bring it up to them in a tactful way. The kind of friend who is unwilling to tell you the truth when you may need it most is the kind who's number you need to be throwing in the dumpster.