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"Potheads", "get-out-of-jail-free", "degenerate", etc. "Ever since it became legal I have friends who spend majority of their day high. Of course, when confron
by rc5150 3y ago
"Potheads", "get-out-of-jail-free", "degenerate", etc.
"Ever since it became legal I have friends who spend majority of their day high. Of course, when confronted"
Maybe you should quit interrogating your friends to prop up your own puritanical moralities. All I see when I read your post is how much you hate people who use weed.
- omginternets 3y agoI didn't read that intent in his post. I don’t think anyone is pointing fingers at you.
- glonq 3y agoI do know several people who develop temporary or permanent paranoia from weed, so maybe that's where the pointy fingers are coming from...
- omginternets 3y agoC’mon, let’s not do that…
- chayesfss 3y ago[dead]
- zer8k 3y ago"Hey man have you tried going a couple days without smoking weed?" is not interrogation. It's concern. I don't understand this attitude. Do you not care about the people around you? I'm not smashing my friend's joints or tossing their bongs. I'm asking because I am concerned about their health. What I enjoy about the comments to my comment is it demonstrates how deeply ingrained this righteous indignation is in the "cannabis community". I don't understand your insults. "Puritan", etc. For some reason having concern for friends is now puritanical...what a world. Your focus on dissecting my use of idiom as some sort of in-built hatred for weed smokers is honestly so on point for the HN commenter community its actually almost funny.
- hutzlibu 3y ago"Of course, when confronted" "Hey man have you tried going a couple days without smoking weed?" is not interrogation. It's concern." Or maybe it is both? Your friends are probably old enough to no want to be controlled by you. Tell them your opinion, it might do them good, but maybe don't tell them what to do. They should figure that out on their own.
- lcnPylGDnU4H9OF 3y agoA question of "Have you tried..." might be the precursor to an offered opinion. Maybe their friends have been successful at that exact thing and the opinion is moot. But if the answer is no, perhaps that's the point at which it might be suggested to try. There's no controlling that is necessarily suggested by their comments. Certainly such questions can be asked in bad faith but it might be assumed that OP isn't doing that.
- hutzlibu 3y agoWell, it is also about intention yes, but my point was just that people do not like to be treated as children (especially when they are acting as such). To reach them, I first have to respect their choices.
- lcnPylGDnU4H9OF 3y agoThis is a reasonable position, which is not something that can be said about the "war on drugs" type of person that I've encountered. That person is much less likely to be critical about why they question the use and, in my experience, will often assume that "use" is "abuse" regardless of the actual effect it has on the user. The comment rightly calls out that it is a personal take about your friends but that is also something which might be done by someone with more pointed and less honest intentions. Certainly assumptions can be more charitable, however. I don't mean to justify these complaints of your comment but hopefully they're more understandable.
- maxbond 3y agoI suggest you send your comment to one of these friends and ask them if they feel like this is overbearing or not. If when considering this, you feel hesitant to show them what it is you wrote about them, then I think that's something to reflect on.
- mvdtnz 3y agoFriends are people you can show concern for. If you only ever have softball easy conversations with then they're probably not a friend, they're an acquaintance. Sometimes hard conversations are necessary.
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