Oh I've heard song lyrics and standup jokes and lines in movies and TV shows, sure. I was talking about my personal experience. (I did laugh at the Ali Wong jok

Oh I've heard song lyrics and standup jokes and lines in movies and TV shows, sure. I was talking about my personal experience. (I did laugh at the Ali Wong joke, but I won't go to bat for it or anything, it is a joke about stereotypes and insecurity. And the follow up jokes didn't land for me because they got mean.) I'm sure I've heard men and women make "compensating" jokes, I don't remember any particular instances and have no idea about the proportion. Experiences will differ, but I think it's a mistake to attribute the policing of masculinity to women primarily. I'm sure there is far too much of that, but a lot of it (in my personal experience, most) comes from other men, and at any rate blaming women is unproductive. The culprit is suffocatingly rigid ideas about gender, and it's a problem for all of us.