> The double standards are shocking. If a woman says "if he cheated on me like that, I'd (fill in horrid genital mutilation)" and everyone has a laugh about it

> The double standards are shocking. If a woman says "if he cheated on me like that, I'd (fill in horrid genital mutilation)" and everyone has a laugh about it or cheers her on. One of my earliest memories of mom: Her in traction for two broken vertebrae, thanks to dad and a bakelite phone. Of all the relatives and friends who've been physically assaulted by someone close, about 99% were female and about 99% of them were hit by a male. The exceptions were older sisters and that ended when the younger sibling got big enough. Because size matters. I did 25 years with a profoundly abusive spouse and know a bit about being abused by women. To believe I was at physical risk would be a sad delusion to have. In my experience, efforts to marginalize the risk that men pose to women don't come from a place of sound analysis and good faith.