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I don’t know what you think a life coach does. But one that solves their own problems and is happy is probably a good one. I think one thing we have leaned ove
by 40yearoldman 3y ago
I don’t know what you think a life coach does. But one that solves their own problems and is happy is probably a good one.
I think one thing we have leaned over time is it is not always possible to change how one thinks.
For example. Some men like women, and do not find other men attractive at all. No amount of conditioning may change this. Or even something as simple as eating, an urge so strong that reasoning about it id nearly impossible.
What if this man had the same feeling about penis size as other men about desiring women?
Of. Note. I have never desired a larger penis, but worried it was smaller than desired by the opposite sex. When thinking about it, I prefer the size I am, as a the large floppy ones look like they get the way of normal day to day interactions.
- jncfhnb 3y agoYou appear to be conflating things that are rigidly immutable vs. things that are reasonably intrinsic and healthy. It sucks that some people develop such neuroses, but it’s pretty strictly detrimental to their lives and mental health. These surgeries are largely unnecessary, solving imagined problems. If a life coach looks at this and sees a real problem and a positive solution… I would steer clear. I would say this person has a distorted, ungrounded perspective
- 40yearoldman 3y agoI did not conflate. Outright told you that your assumptions that these things are mutable are wrong. You sound just like an anti trans or old school gay hater. Things you think are choices or are “developed” may just be things that are the way they are. Why do some people like blue and others purple. You are outright putting your desires as normal and others as not. You are a penis bigot at worse, or misinformed at best. Take some time to understand you are one person and not representative of all and what is normal for you may not be normal for others.
- jncfhnb 3y agoI suppose you are entitled to an opinion, but I feel very strongly that body dysmorphia that causes men to obsess over their penises and seek surgeries to change it is a harmful neurosis not at all comparable to trans/gay folks intrinsic identities. It might be hard to shake a neurosis like penis obsession but it isn’t healthy…