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I had a pretty bad bout of depression about a decade ago. My girlfriend left me, followed shortly by one of my closest friends dying. I saw a therapist and went
by donatj 3y ago
I had a pretty bad bout of depression about a decade ago. My girlfriend left me, followed shortly by one of my closest friends dying. I saw a therapist and went on antidepressants. I didn’t find either particularly effective or helpful.
I don’t know if it’s even possible for other people but what I ended up doing out of desperation was just logic-ing my way out of it. I would sense it coming and start directly countering thoughts and waves of emotions with reasons what I was feeling was not true and things I was grateful for. It was literally like arguing with my own thoughts and telling them to shut up. It shortened the bouts by a ton, stopped me from spiraling and eventually they stopped all together.
Maybe that will help someone else super analytical like myself? I genuinely don’t know. In more recent years, did not help my wife with her struggles at all.
- rambambram 3y agoI do the same. Once in a while I remind myself of the five stages of grief/loss and I go explicitly through all of them to see where I stand now. Although I sometimes feel stuck, doing this exercise explicitly helps me to see I make progress. Progress as in 'two steps forward, one step back', but progress nonetheless. Logic-ing or grounding is also something I recognize myself doing. And it can all be such simple accessible things to make it happen. For example, looking at a picture or video of my young nephews playing works wonders. Probably more than any talking session, although one has to also get the dirt work out of the way. The hard work of fixing stuff, and then relaxing by grounding work.
- kibibu 3y agoThat sounds a bit like you invented your own version of cognitive behaviour therapy