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I agree with the trends, though I'd argue it primarily due to women being more present in the workforce with high-quality jobs. Women have less need to depend o

I agree with the trends, though I'd argue it primarily due to women being more present in the workforce with high-quality jobs. Women have less need to depend on a man, so are able to be more selective up to the point of deciding to remain single vs. pair with someone that doesn't fit for them or just isn't overall a good catch (e.g., not self-aware, not emotionally available, doesn't care for themselves, don't view women as equal in worth to men). Women also delaying decisions to be come a parent - or possibly choosing against entirely - exacerbates the issue to some extent for men in their 20s in particular. Of course it's multifactorial, there is no single explanation. I do think most incels take the wrong lessons from this and turn relationships into some sort of game, and women are easily-manipulated automatons that respond to muscles, money, and height. But that's really a different conversation.

faeriechangling 3y ago
Focus on muscles, money, and height is a reaction to dating apps. Men see that muscles, money, and height are disproportionately valued on such apps and take note. It's a direct response to dating being more superficial than it was even 20 years ago. When dating apps remove their height filters, height preference among women becomes less extreme. There's a trend towards removing height filters from apps (at least for the unpaid tier) because having everybody on the app automate height discrimination is bad for literally everybody except the tall. Most men just get rejected and women end up all pursuing the same men to the point of collective irrationality. Want to solve the problem? Don't scapegoat men or women, target the apps.