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Sorry, but I don’t see where it says he has to respond to a woman’s nonsense flirtatious mysticism by lowering his own standard for discourse down to her level.

by xwdv 3y ago

Sorry, but I don’t see where it says he has to respond to a woman’s nonsense flirtatious mysticism by lowering his own standard for discourse down to her level. He does not have to tolerate her magical thinking. I think he drew an interesting correlation between racism and her astrological beliefs that she likely has never heard before, and perhaps will give her some much needed introspection. That is a far more meaningful outcome than whatever else their conversation about astrological signs could have had.

BSEdlMMldESB 3y ago
I agree with you, I think "just be yourself" or else get comfortable acting on the other hand, it's also important to 'go with the flow' sometimes, specially around things you don't consider too important; whichever those may be (I've noticed that what is important is even affected by my mood).
- mettamage 3y ago
  I studied and believed astrology between the ages of 12 and 16. At 16, I found a few ways to strongly falsify it. The problem is that the readings always end up being somewhat true and people become enthusiastic about the readings. All I did was follow a particular book, but yea that was tough to falsify for me at that age. In any case, it depends on what you value. If you don't care that someone is into astrology, then go with the flow. If you deeply believe in science and it's one of your core values that people close to you believe in that as well then a short and polite conversation is all I see happening. I'm of the latter kind. I'd have never made such a strong comment though as it is my experience that people aren't really open to change their minds on this (having done readings on a few dozen people as a kid). So why waste the time?
- sanderjd 3y ago
  Both "just be yourself" and "learn how to be someone who is capable of going with the flow" are good advice for social situations.
tsukikage 3y ago
> respond to a woman’s nonsense flirtatious mysticism by lowering his own standard for discourse Flirting is an informal process for obtaining answers to questions about a potential partner in advance of any significant commitment or risk and without having to deal with matters of any particular importance; questions such as "how well do we communicate?", "do I enjoy spending time with this person?", "how do they perceive me?", "how do they describe me to others?" and "how do they respond when we disagree on something?" Reacting to these situations with denigration and hostility is very unlikely to leave a good impression; though certainly it does yield valuable information to the recipient.
- xormapmap 3y ago
  > Reacting to these situations with denigration and hostility is very unlikely to leave a good impression Why would I care if I left a good impression on a person using astrology to judge me? I wouldn't expect nor want things to go any further.
  - tsukikage 3y ago
    If you enjoy being cruel to casual acquaintances who haven't hurt you in any way I don't really know what else to tell you. Meanwhile, it turns out astrology is pretty good at revealing people who mock and denigrate others for no good reason. Who'd have thought it? Maybe I'll start using that technique.
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by xwdv 3y ago

BSEdlMMldESB 3y ago

I agree with you, I think "just be yourself" or else get comfortable acting on the other hand, it's also important to 'go with the flow' sometimes, specially around things you don't consider too important; whichever those may be (I've noticed that what is important is even affected by my mood).

mettamage 3y ago
I studied and believed astrology between the ages of 12 and 16. At 16, I found a few ways to strongly falsify it. The problem is that the readings always end up being somewhat true and people become enthusiastic about the readings. All I did was follow a particular book, but yea that was tough to falsify for me at that age. In any case, it depends on what you value. If you don't care that someone is into astrology, then go with the flow. If you deeply believe in science and it's one of your core values that people close to you believe in that as well then a short and polite conversation is all I see happening. I'm of the latter kind. I'd have never made such a strong comment though as it is my experience that people aren't really open to change their minds on this (having done readings on a few dozen people as a kid). So why waste the time?
sanderjd 3y ago
Both "just be yourself" and "learn how to be someone who is capable of going with the flow" are good advice for social situations.

tsukikage 3y ago

> respond to a woman’s nonsense flirtatious mysticism by lowering his own standard for discourse Flirting is an informal process for obtaining answers to questions about a potential partner in advance of any significant commitment or risk and without having to deal with matters of any particular importance; questions such as "how well do we communicate?", "do I enjoy spending time with this person?", "how do they perceive me?", "how do they describe me to others?" and "how do they respond when we disagree on something?" Reacting to these situations with denigration and hostility is very unlikely to leave a good impression; though certainly it does yield valuable information to the recipient.

xormapmap 3y ago
> Reacting to these situations with denigration and hostility is very unlikely to leave a good impression Why would I care if I left a good impression on a person using astrology to judge me? I wouldn't expect nor want things to go any further.
- tsukikage 3y ago
  If you enjoy being cruel to casual acquaintances who haven't hurt you in any way I don't really know what else to tell you. Meanwhile, it turns out astrology is pretty good at revealing people who mock and denigrate others for no good reason. Who'd have thought it? Maybe I'll start using that technique.

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