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>And while people's sex/gender shouldn't matter... Always has mattered and always will. Sun and Moon. Yin and Yang. Shiva and Shakti. Men and women are each gi

>And while people's sex/gender shouldn't matter... Always has mattered and always will. Sun and Moon. Yin and Yang. Shiva and Shakti. Men and women are each gifted with unique powers and no amount of postmodernism will take that away from them. We compete differently, we desire differently, we sacrifice differently. >As a female teen who's interested in programming and who wants to found a startup one day If you knew what they meant, what you'd be sacrificing, you wouldn't want that. It's a lot of risk and a lot of pain. Someone said, "men have the gift of pain". The pain of low status becomes unbearable and the only way out is to prove, upward and onward. That's why we take on great risks. We go out into the desert and brave the elements. Many of us die, most of us come backed empty-handed and beaten. A lucky few come back with great riches. And that's why you see so many men founders. This is what we do - our lower status manifests as pain and we go to great lengths to escape that pain. We don't ask for permission or consensus, we just go out into the desert because it's the only way for us to go. Women don't go out into the desert because they don't have to. Their status is already high enough, much higher than the average man's. Why risk getting killed out in the desert just for the opportunity to come back scarred, poor, and old? I would wager you don't actually want to go out into the desert. I think you, like many, just want the status of being a startup founder. But you don't want to bleed and burn for that status. You don't want to do what it takes, because you don't really understand what it takes, and if you did, you'd realize that the powers and status you already have, as a woman, are much more desirable. Further, it's telling that you don't even know what it is you want to make a startup for. You haven't said you have a burning desire to make efficient the payment processing for SME's, you haven't said that you see a great opportunity in a particular industry to make a lot of money with which you can use to enrich your clan and community, you haven't said you lament the dental industry and want to make dental care actually affordable for those in poverty and a startup is how you'll do it, you simply said "I want to found a startup one day", which translates to me as "I just want the status of having a startup". A startup is a means to an end, it is not the end, and you may find the ends you truly desire do not involve founding a startup. Go ahead and try it though. I would imagine, as you embark, you'll observe the women who play more traditional, less risky games as happier and higher status than you. That said, here's a woman founder: https://www.dartagnan.com/dartagnan-founder-ariane-daguin.html https://www.dartagnan.com/dartagnan-founder-ariane-daguin.ht... Good luck.

pg_1234 3y ago
There are some truths in this, but they're unfortunately smothered in what will understandably be seen as sexist condescension. Perhaps it would be good to extract out the core sentiment and rephrase it in a more politically acceptable way: - Men in tech launch startups to stop being losers (yes, I know, this too is a gross generalization). - Women in tech aren't losers.
bruce511 3y ago
Now, wasn't it helpful to have a man explain to you why you don't want the things you want? Whew, talk about a bullet dodged! I'm sure you'd be much happier just getting married, and staying at home, rather than doing icky work stuff! (The /s is hopefully redundant.) For what it's worth, yes running a business or startup is hard work. But that's gender neutral. We promoted a staff person to CEO [1], not because of her gender but because she was the best person for the job. She's been fantastic at it. There will unfortunately be arseholes like the above poster - you'll get to deal with them sell your life - but don't let them put you off. Go in with your eyes open (good advice for both genders) but if this is your path then go for it, and become the role model you wish you had. [2] [1] as founders we're slowly stepping away so the business can flourish even after we retire. [2] and yes, existing role models exist, so hopefully upu can find ones close to you.

pg_1234 3y ago

There are some truths in this, but they're unfortunately smothered in what will understandably be seen as sexist condescension. Perhaps it would be good to extract out the core sentiment and rephrase it in a more politically acceptable way: - Men in tech launch startups to stop being losers (yes, I know, this too is a gross generalization). - Women in tech aren't losers.

bruce511 3y ago

Now, wasn't it helpful to have a man explain to you why you don't want the things you want? Whew, talk about a bullet dodged! I'm sure you'd be much happier just getting married, and staying at home, rather than doing icky work stuff! (The /s is hopefully redundant.) For what it's worth, yes running a business or startup is hard work. But that's gender neutral. We promoted a staff person to CEO [1], not because of her gender but because she was the best person for the job. She's been fantastic at it. There will unfortunately be arseholes like the above poster - you'll get to deal with them sell your life - but don't let them put you off. Go in with your eyes open (good advice for both genders) but if this is your path then go for it, and become the role model you wish you had. [2] [1] as founders we're slowly stepping away so the business can flourish even after we retire. [2] and yes, existing role models exist, so hopefully upu can find ones close to you.