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Would you consider a parental relationship to be transactional? There is a huge potential for the relationship to be negative - a child with special needs / med
by apazzy 3y ago
Would you consider a parental relationship to be transactional? There is a huge potential for the relationship to be negative - a child with special needs / medical bills, a child with views so different from yours it causes a huge rift, etc.
What positive return is guaranteed that makes these relationships beneficial? There are plenty of living beings who yeet their young out to live on their own from the start. Or is every parent either throwing away their time/money/effort on a losing transaction?
Is it a gamble for those who are poor, that their children will take care of them? What does that mean for rich people and their children? For extremely wealthy people, who can buy everything they ever need/want, is it solely a gamble that your child will want to spend time with you?
- jdasdf 3y ago>What positive return is guaranteed that makes these relationships beneficial? Why do you believe that guarantees are required? Or even that the return must be positive?
- apazzy 3y agoI don't believe it, I also don't treat/consider relationships as transactional. My argument is that if these relationships are transactional, there should be an obvious benefit otherwise most people would consider the potential gain to be too risky and not have these relationships.
- paulryanrogers 3y agoPeople are likely subconsciously or otherwise doing the math. I had to take some calculated risks having kids because of some family history. And when folks get genetic testing, or abstain altogether, they too are weighing possible outcomes. 'Transactional' doesn't have to mean a perfectly balanced exchange or in kind. For some just a bit of acknowledgement is worth millions of dollars and/or years of sacrifice. For others they're never satisfied and forever feel cheated or unhappy with how they see things "balancing out" or failing to.