Similar to how I can add cameras to ZoneMinder and keep all my data on-prem, is there a platform that people can move their home automation to and have full con

Similar to how I can add cameras to ZoneMinder and keep all my data on-prem, is there a platform that people can move their home automation to and have full control over cloud access, ideally with a hardware compatibility list and preferably without having to hack the firmware? Also ideally light-weight enough to run on a RasPi or mini-pc. I assume this platform would also need to be able to make API calls only those I configure to Amazon, Walmart, CVS, VPS providers, Utility bills, IRS, etc... to purchase my 10,000 rolls of toilet paper so it should be vendor agnostic and must not talk when not expected to. reward the most affordable, reliable and unbiased vendors and not leak data