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It's not hopeless. In fact, online dating is the most common path to finding a partner. That said, you have to set yourself apart somehow. Different for every

by gizmo 3y ago

It's not hopeless. In fact, online dating is the most common path to finding a partner. That said, you have to set yourself apart somehow. Different for every individual, and it takes a serious amount of effort. But it's not impossible, and it's not hopeless, and it's not pointless, and I sympathize and understand why you currently feel that it is.

c7DJTLrn 3y ago
>In fact, online dating is the most common path to finding a partner. Yeah, and those people are on uppermost part of the attractiveness scale. If you're average or below, you're going to be spending a LOT of time and effort on an app just for a single date. Do you really want to be spending hours of your day rolling the dice to play a fundamentally rigged game? Even the algorithms of these apps have bias. If your profile isn't well received, it will simply be pushed to the bottom of the card stack, or never even be shown.
- gizmo 3y ago
  You need every edge you can get. Great pictures, great bio, funny/interesting/engaging chat. Be in shape. Plan cool dates. Most guys who don't get anywhere with the apps have to 10x their effort. Maybe that feels unfair to you. But it's not unfair. Dating is extremely hard for people with disabilities or disfigurements. If that's you, I'm sorry. But if you're a regular guy in his 20s your dating pool is stupendously huge and the only thing holding you back is your attitude.
- red-iron-pine 3y ago
  I can think of two (2) married couples off of the top of my head who met through either Match.com or Tinder. And at least two more who met, dated for a while (1+ years), and split. I wouldn't describe any of of them as ugly, but most weren't on the "uppermost part of the attractiveness scale"
throw9away6 3y ago
I honestly think if online is your bet you should probably just pay an expert to setup an excellent profile. The amount of time you waste figuring out how to do it correctly you would be better off paying 5k or whatever to start correctly.
Tozen 3y ago
I have to agree with the sentiment that men attempting to only or overuse online dating are doing themselves a disservice. They need to develop the confidence and skill to approach women and have natural conversations. Men are severely limiting themselves and distorting their reality, because lots of online sites are wasting their time and money. The ratio of women in many sites are low, lots of disguised prostitution, lots of pranksters wasting people's time, paid geeks (other men) to just string customers along, etc...

by gizmo 3y ago

c7DJTLrn 3y ago

>In fact, online dating is the most common path to finding a partner. Yeah, and those people are on uppermost part of the attractiveness scale. If you're average or below, you're going to be spending a LOT of time and effort on an app just for a single date. Do you really want to be spending hours of your day rolling the dice to play a fundamentally rigged game? Even the algorithms of these apps have bias. If your profile isn't well received, it will simply be pushed to the bottom of the card stack, or never even be shown.

gizmo 3y ago
You need every edge you can get. Great pictures, great bio, funny/interesting/engaging chat. Be in shape. Plan cool dates. Most guys who don't get anywhere with the apps have to 10x their effort. Maybe that feels unfair to you. But it's not unfair. Dating is extremely hard for people with disabilities or disfigurements. If that's you, I'm sorry. But if you're a regular guy in his 20s your dating pool is stupendously huge and the only thing holding you back is your attitude.
red-iron-pine 3y ago
I can think of two (2) married couples off of the top of my head who met through either Match.com or Tinder. And at least two more who met, dated for a while (1+ years), and split. I wouldn't describe any of of them as ugly, but most weren't on the "uppermost part of the attractiveness scale"

throw9away6 3y ago

I honestly think if online is your bet you should probably just pay an expert to setup an excellent profile. The amount of time you waste figuring out how to do it correctly you would be better off paying 5k or whatever to start correctly.

Tozen 3y ago

I have to agree with the sentiment that men attempting to only or overuse online dating are doing themselves a disservice. They need to develop the confidence and skill to approach women and have natural conversations. Men are severely limiting themselves and distorting their reality, because lots of online sites are wasting their time and money. The ratio of women in many sites are low, lots of disguised prostitution, lots of pranksters wasting people's time, paid geeks (other men) to just string customers along, etc...