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> You've been viciously downvoted here, but you should have expected it. Oh, I did. I don't say things because I think they will be popular. In fact, it isn't

by maratd 15y ago

> You've been viciously downvoted here, but you should have expected it. Oh, I did. I don't say things because I think they will be popular. In fact, it isn't even Hacker News. If you drew a random group of people from any Western society and I came into the room and made that statement verbatim ... well, I would be shocked if they didn't start throwing chairs at me. Our culture is so fundamentally sick that it not only pretends there is no significant difference between genders, it pretends there are no fundamental differences between people in general. The differences are there and they are stark. The absolute worst part is that after making the assumption that we are all identical, any behavior outside of the defined norm is defined as aberrant and is treated, usually with drugs. That is absolutely sick. What's that? You can't do calculus? Well, you must be a moron. A girl that doesn't like math? We're not trying hard enough. A girl that prefers to watch The Bachelor instead of learning how to write in C? Unspeakable. Now that is misogyny. Hatred of the feminine and its masculinization. Those who read my comment and saw something negative in it, you're projecting. The feminine is beautiful and just because a certain behavior is disgusting in a man, doesn't make it so in a woman.

pessimizer 15y ago
Oh, I disagree with you now, sorry. You're saying that there's a way that women are and a way that men are that isn't dictated by society, but dictates it, and any deviation is unnatural. I'm saying that women are restricted to certain manners of expression to conform to norms, so they sometimes behave in peculiar ways in order to express themselves yet not be punished. Your argument can be used to justify any form of prejudice that has ever existed, and doesn't rest on any evidence other than your own stereotypes. You actually think that sick men deserve contempt. And that men and women who behave identically should inspire disgust. And you insist that other people are the ones who are trying to force people into norms. Very ugly.
- maratd 15y ago
  > You're saying that there's a way that women are and a way that men are that isn't dictated by society Yes. Just like every other sexual species on this planet has a male and female nature that dictates varied behavior, so do we. Give me an example of a species where that isn't the case? > and any deviation is unnatural. Any deviation is impossible. It's hard-coded. Yes, there might be a 0.1% of the population that doesn't comply, but those are mutations. I strongly believe that even if 1% of the population is exhibiting a behavior, it is not a deviation. It is normal. At least, normal for that 1% group. > Your argument can be used to justify any form of prejudice that has ever existed No. See the above. Again, if it's defined by nature, then no deviation is possible. In other words, what you're witnessing is not deviation. It is nature. On the contrary, that specific idea can be used to stop repression. > doesn't rest on any evidence other than your own stereotypes It's an idea derived from simple logic. Not data or stereotypes. If you're seeing a large group of people exhibiting behavior, it is natural for them. Regardless of how wrong you may think their behavior is, there is nothing wrong with it. Trying to force them to behave a certain way is wrong. > You actually think that sick men deserve contempt. No. However, a sickly man will be perceived as weak by other men and that will elicit contempt. Which explains why FDR desperately tried to hide the fact that he had polio and was confined to a wheel chair ... there are many many other examples of this behavior. > And that men and women who behave identically should inspire disgust. Men and women don't behave identically. When they do, they are forced to either by social norms or through actual threat of force. And that's sick. Again, please provide an example of a species where the male and female behave identically? > And you insist that other people are the ones who are trying to force people into norms. Every day. It happens around you constantly.
  - pessimizer 15y ago
    Men and women often behave identically, just as men and other men often behave identically. I'm a man and I don't feel contempt for sick men. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be having this conversation, I just misinterpreted your first comment. Go on defending the completely unthreatened by force right of women to watch The Bachelor.

by maratd 15y ago

pessimizer 15y ago

Oh, I disagree with you now, sorry. You're saying that there's a way that women are and a way that men are that isn't dictated by society, but dictates it, and any deviation is unnatural. I'm saying that women are restricted to certain manners of expression to conform to norms, so they sometimes behave in peculiar ways in order to express themselves yet not be punished. Your argument can be used to justify any form of prejudice that has ever existed, and doesn't rest on any evidence other than your own stereotypes. You actually think that sick men deserve contempt. And that men and women who behave identically should inspire disgust. And you insist that other people are the ones who are trying to force people into norms. Very ugly.

maratd 15y ago
> You're saying that there's a way that women are and a way that men are that isn't dictated by society Yes. Just like every other sexual species on this planet has a male and female nature that dictates varied behavior, so do we. Give me an example of a species where that isn't the case? > and any deviation is unnatural. Any deviation is impossible. It's hard-coded. Yes, there might be a 0.1% of the population that doesn't comply, but those are mutations. I strongly believe that even if 1% of the population is exhibiting a behavior, it is not a deviation. It is normal. At least, normal for that 1% group. > Your argument can be used to justify any form of prejudice that has ever existed No. See the above. Again, if it's defined by nature, then no deviation is possible. In other words, what you're witnessing is not deviation. It is nature. On the contrary, that specific idea can be used to stop repression. > doesn't rest on any evidence other than your own stereotypes It's an idea derived from simple logic. Not data or stereotypes. If you're seeing a large group of people exhibiting behavior, it is natural for them. Regardless of how wrong you may think their behavior is, there is nothing wrong with it. Trying to force them to behave a certain way is wrong. > You actually think that sick men deserve contempt. No. However, a sickly man will be perceived as weak by other men and that will elicit contempt. Which explains why FDR desperately tried to hide the fact that he had polio and was confined to a wheel chair ... there are many many other examples of this behavior. > And that men and women who behave identically should inspire disgust. Men and women don't behave identically. When they do, they are forced to either by social norms or through actual threat of force. And that's sick. Again, please provide an example of a species where the male and female behave identically? > And you insist that other people are the ones who are trying to force people into norms. Every day. It happens around you constantly.
- pessimizer 15y ago
  Men and women often behave identically, just as men and other men often behave identically. I'm a man and I don't feel contempt for sick men. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be having this conversation, I just misinterpreted your first comment. Go on defending the completely unthreatened by force right of women to watch The Bachelor.