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This is the so self-serving and self-congratulatory! He had the nerve to cry on her doorstep, which says he didn't want to apologize, but to be forgiven and to
by d1l 3y ago
This is the so self-serving and self-congratulatory! He had the nerve to cry on her doorstep, which says he didn't want to apologize, but to be forgiven and to make a show of it.
Amending past wrongs is about showing up without any regard for your own feeling and the intention to do whatever is in your power to set the wrong aright. You admit the wrong and then you listen.
I get it that to the author this is some cute meta-story about "we were both wrong!" But truly acknowledging one's fault is antithetical to this kind of fawning over oneself and infantile moralizing.
- cgio 3y agoThat’s harsh. Showing up is demonstrably an action in the direction of making things right , apologising is not out of a pure disconnected entity, but out of a being with feelings, driven by them to do right. Perhaps if the story was different, he would have gotten the proper moralising tune, but that was his experience and that’s the tune he found appropriate. I don’t agree with his findings but that does not mean I question his intentions.
- kirse 3y agoThat's funny, I read it more as a story about forgiveness and how often we carry around these life burdens (guilt, anger, whatever) solely on an emotionally-charged misunderstanding of what we think to be the truth. It got me thinking about what stories I keep telling myself that I may be clinging to that are potentially incomplete or incorrect.