I am serious about this, but I find the whole matter quite painful. It is also something that is probably not well suited for a forum where most readers have (

I am serious about this, but I find the whole matter quite painful. It is also something that is probably not well suited for a forum where most readers have (very) high intelligence and a fondness for liberalism -- so I was a bit unsure on how to pose the question tactfully, and added in some sympathetic gestures.