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> having led teams of hundreds of people, I know I can have deep, meaningful and long conversations… but I don’t find them a source of joy Do you consider your

by bmitc 3y ago

> having led teams of hundreds of people, I know I can have deep, meaningful and long conversations… but I don’t find them a source of joy Do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert? I am deeply introverted, but deep conversations are what I yearn for, but I find most people are not willing to engage in such, especially extroverts. It was my understanding that most introverts actually feel deeply, which is precisely why social interactions that are not intellectually stimulating are draining. Though even the intellectually stimulating ones are still tiring, just not draining.

jmye 3y ago
Seems like this is ascribing an awful lot of value judgement on personality type. I’ve had very deep conversations with people across the spectrum, and met a lot of introverts who couldn’t, or didn’t want to, talk at more than surface level.
- bmitc 3y ago
  I'm not sure what you mean by a value judgement. But these things are obviously personal, broad, statistical, and not absolute. Personality types are a thing though, and some types are more prone to certain behaviors and feelings than others. Doesn't mean it's always that way or better or worse. Probably what's being re-hit upon is that there's more to personality types than introvert and extrovert.
  - jmye 3y ago
    It’s the notion that “extroverts” aren’t capable of holding deep, intellectual conversations or that “introverts” are more prone to them. I accept that may not have been your intent, but it’s how I read that comment. I fully agree with the second thing you said.
    - bmitc 3y ago
      To be fair, I said "not willing" and not "not capable". There was probably a hint of bias coming from an introvert and personality type that doesn't generally feel heard. But I think the more broad and modern personality models beyond introvert/extrovert are better for this rather than the broad strokes I painted with.

by bmitc 3y ago

jmye 3y ago

Seems like this is ascribing an awful lot of value judgement on personality type. I’ve had very deep conversations with people across the spectrum, and met a lot of introverts who couldn’t, or didn’t want to, talk at more than surface level.

bmitc 3y ago
I'm not sure what you mean by a value judgement. But these things are obviously personal, broad, statistical, and not absolute. Personality types are a thing though, and some types are more prone to certain behaviors and feelings than others. Doesn't mean it's always that way or better or worse. Probably what's being re-hit upon is that there's more to personality types than introvert and extrovert.
- jmye 3y ago
  It’s the notion that “extroverts” aren’t capable of holding deep, intellectual conversations or that “introverts” are more prone to them. I accept that may not have been your intent, but it’s how I read that comment. I fully agree with the second thing you said.
  - bmitc 3y ago
    To be fair, I said "not willing" and not "not capable". There was probably a hint of bias coming from an introvert and personality type that doesn't generally feel heard. But I think the more broad and modern personality models beyond introvert/extrovert are better for this rather than the broad strokes I painted with.