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Could you describe what it feels like to have your emotional batteries empty? I'm trying to imagine how I would feel if I were in your shoes trying to woo cust
by cole-k 3y ago
Could you describe what it feels like to have your emotional batteries empty?
I'm trying to imagine how I would feel if I were in your shoes trying to woo customers. I think the negative feelings I would have afterwards would be forms of anxiety: perhaps I'm worried I didn't present myself well, I'm thinking about a blunder I made, I have to recover because there was one guy giving me a hard time and making it difficult for me to be "on", or maybe I did everything right but something else upset me (I don't like the customers, what I'm selling, the venue...).
From what I gather you would feel none of these things.
Edit: Another thought: would you relate being at this kind of event to performing a concert? I usually am nervous, but eventually my instincts kick in and I can play. Afterwards my first thought isn't "let's do another," it's more like "I want some ice cream and to sit down." And I admit I kind of feel this way with big social events like the one you describe - maybe I'm focusing too much of a more negative feeling when I think about what you mean by being drained.
- kstrauser 3y agoFirst, I wouldn't say I feel none of those things. I'm certainly aware of when I've made a misstep, but probably more than anyone else is.[1] I have what I think is the expected, rational amount of anxiety: I don't want to mess this up because I want to help our company close a deal. That's 99% of it, though. I'm not so much worried about making myself look bad. Second, your analogy of a concert? Spot on! Yes, that's exactly what it's like for me. The way I've felt after being on a literal stage is the same as I've felt after leaving a figurative one: "Whew, nailed it! I'm glad that's done! Now let's go play some video games for a while." [1] Someone asked me if I remembered every time my colleagues said something awkward. No, of course not. Well, that's how much they think about the mistakes that I've made. I take comfort in that.
- cole-k 3y agoThanks for your response. I thought I would get some insight into how a very different person reacts, but I think we are actually a lot more similar than I thought :) I can certainly relate to how you feel. Guess it just goes to show that my definitions of introversion and extroversion deviate from the norm quite a bit.