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Well, no. I guess if you don’t know then you don’t know. As an anecdotal personal example. I love my wife and kids dearly. I trust them, and feel no anxiety be
by jgilias 3y ago
Well, no. I guess if you don’t know then you don’t know.
As an anecdotal personal example. I love my wife and kids dearly. I trust them, and feel no anxiety being around them. Yet it’s draining. Now they’re gone for a few days, and I feel very good being finally alone for a few days.
Likewise I enjoy getting together with friends and family. I’ve also learned to be sociable. But it’s draining. After a day of having to interact with people I really, really, really cherish being alone for a few hours with my own thoughts, and preferably silence.
We’re different like that, people in general, I mean.
- coffeebeqn 3y agoYou also adjust to a degree. With a family those longer moments can be as rare as a few times a year. I used to be alone for many hours or days almost daily when I was younger. But I’m doing fine. I really do enjoy the moments of solitude but I guess I don’t need them as much as I thought. With this “draining” metaphor you’d think every introvert parent is a mere husk
- bityard 3y agoWell, some of us are. :/
- jgilias 3y agoRecognizing that something takes effort doesn’t necessarily imply that the activity is not enjoyable or worth pursuing. I mean, I do see how someone might believe that just because one finds an activity draining they’d strive to avoid it at all costs. But that really doesn’t have to be the case.
- squirtlebonflow 3y agoTrue. Pretty much everything worth doing is "draining"