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Agreed totally and Brene Brown has done great work on this topic - along with the whole Emotionally Focused Therapy movement. My MBTI would reliably give me IN
by AndrewKemendo 3y ago
Agreed totally and Brene Brown has done great work on this topic - along with the whole Emotionally Focused Therapy movement.
My MBTI would reliably give me INTJ from ages 16-37
Now I reliably test as ENFP
What changed was my relationship with myself, and society, after coming to some hard realizations about my childhood and decades of trauma.
I’ve seen similar changes in others, and I watch as (mostly) extroverted boys have their social extroversion absolutely crushed by weight of social and gender expectations. I watch it happen with my son and his friends and it hurts. Luckily gen z is savvy and a lot of them are countering this.
This seems to drive people to choose being alone over the risk and complexity of dealing with social stuff, to the point where people find or create habits that just reinforce alienation.
If I had to guess, a good percentage of people who are “introverts” have had a lot of early trauma and so avoid engaging with people out of anxiety.
- tayo42 3y agoive kind of agree with your conclusion, though trauma makes it sound intense. i guess im kind of quiet, reservered "introverted", people always tell me how they eventually come out of their shell or w/e and one day i will. seems like people are always changing. i think anxiety and stuff has more to do with peoples social interactions
- AndrewKemendo 3y agoIt's a shame that Trauma is only thought of as something violent, when it is often very subtle and "peaceful." Mostly cause we think of Trauma as adult trauma from War or displacement, or significant physical or emotional child abuse - but it can be as simple as your parent persistently telling you you're in the way etc...