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Fulfilment doesn’t feed your children or put a roof over their heads. The expectation is that men provide. The wife and kids would prefer a bitter provider over
by steve_taylor 3y ago
Fulfilment doesn’t feed your children or put a roof over their heads. The expectation is that men provide. The wife and kids would prefer a bitter provider over a happy “deadbeat”.
- layman51 3y agoI don’t disagree, but I think part of it is whether the wife and/or kids are able to spend enough time with their husband/father.
- xboxnolifes 3y agoI actually think most kids would prefer a happy in-their-life, less successful, dad, over a bitter, never-in-their-life, career professional.
- magicink81 3y agoAgree - there are other forms of capital and support which are more important to children, spouses, other family members, and friends than money. It seems like many people have already proven that having more money than you need doesn't actually make a difference if your life is broken in other ways.
- hackly 3y agoYes, but just as they’d prefer playing video games over reading books. Might have been absent from their life at times, but I’m sure they’ll appreciate the properties and stocks I’ll leave behind for them.
- Toutouxc 3y agoWhat makes you so sure? Did you discuss this with your kids, if they’re old enough, or with your friends’ older kids?
- selestify 3y agoAs someone with a friend who grew up under a dad like you… no they won’t. They’ll talk a whole lot of shit to someone like me about what an emotionally unavailable parent you were. Sure, they’ll acknowledge the privileged circumstances they grew up in and be grateful that they at least have that going for them, but not a single shred of that gratitude will extend to you or the decisions you made. Then again, everyone’s different, and maybe your kids will react differently. Just don’t be surprised if you get a shitty relationship with your kids later on.
- mattgreenrocks 3y agoThis is a bit of a meme recently: “I am not a workaholic, I’m creating generational wealth!” I can’t say for sure from here, but beware of this idea floating around in the zeitgeist.
- throw9away6 3y agoAnd your kid will blow that generational wealth because that’s life and wealth rarely lasts more than 3 generations
- boringg 3y agoGenerational wealth isn't capital though some fools mistake it for such.
- _cenw 3y ago> The expectation is that men provide. The 60s want their gender roles back. In my experience, if a man fails at being a provider, he usually fully commits to the failure too. At least this was the case with my family. A healthy in between narcissistic Walter White provider and fully leaving your old life behind would seem healthier.
- nickd2001 3y agoThere is absolutely a happy medium here, is there not? e:g mid-level dev that could have been a senior but would rather work from home, do the school run, be around for kids, gets enough code cranked out for employer to be happy but is a decent , present, Dad too? Kids get less material standard of living than some of their peers, but still good compared to most of the world and most of history.
- throw9away6 3y agoActually it’s not. The expectation is that men do their half and also provide emotional support. The problem is that many omen don’t do either of those and few so both well. Instead many men try to compensate with wealth and fail.