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I’d say in my social circle most people hit a crisis of self around 30 years old, and most were out of the funk 2-3 years following. Most are doing well now as

I’d say in my social circle most people hit a crisis of self around 30 years old, and most were out of the funk 2-3 years following. Most are doing well now as we hit 40, curios if is struck sooner for our generation.

Lammy 3y ago
> I’d say in my social circle most people hit a crisis of self around 30 years old https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturn_return https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturn_return e: downvote all you want but people wouldn't have attempted to find meaning for something like this if they hadn't experienced it first
- hattmall 3y ago
  I think people are down voting because Astrology but yeah it just seems like the coming to terms with reality of adulthood. Midlife crisis is later.
pclmulqdq 3y ago
That might be a "quarter-life crisis" not a mid-life crisis. Mid-life crises are usually 45-50.
- j0hnyl 3y ago
  The American Psychological Association considers middle age to begin at 35.
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  - pclmulqdq 3y ago
    That's great, but the crisis in question happened before 35. The psychology of quarter-life and mid-life crises is also very different. See also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quarter-life_crisis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quarter-life_crisis
000ooo000 3y ago
This is similar to my experience (mid 30s now). I remember sitting at my desk at work, staring out of the window, thinking "wow..so this is it". Would've been about 28-29. I think a combination of things got me to that headspace: end of the education-career pipeline, having bought and settled into a house, and having no kids. I reached a point where I was no longer occupied with achieving "my" goals, and I was left to figure out what my life was going to be. I guess suddenly becoming aware of that responsibility isn't very pleasant; before, I was just on the rails society lays out. School, job, marriage, house, kids, career, etc. Easy. I'm not much interested in the pedantic debate taking place elsewhere in here about what truly qualifies as an x-life crisis. To me, it's a point in your life where there's some anxiety associated with the direction of your life. I'm more interested in how people came to think about their lives in and after those moments.
- ddq 3y ago
  Roger Waters of Pink Floyd was 28-29 when “he realised he was no longer preparing for anything in life, but was right in the middle of it” and was inspired to write the song Time for Dark Side of the Moon (the reader is encouraged to listen to it now). Each individual responds to this realization in their own way.
  - lamp_book 3y ago
    "No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun." Tame Impala's Currents is an album written around the same age with a similar theme in mind, and fittingly part of the new guard of psych rock/psychedelia.
hattmall 3y ago
I'm sorry to say I don't think it's struck yet! Not to say what you experienced wasn't real by any means, but I think it just sounds more like a different, but normal thing. The coming to terms with reality after your 20s. I think you'll see another round more characteristic of the mid-life crisis as you all enter your 50s.

Lammy 3y ago

> I’d say in my social circle most people hit a crisis of self around 30 years old https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturn_return https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturn_return e: downvote all you want but people wouldn't have attempted to find meaning for something like this if they hadn't experienced it first

hattmall 3y ago
I think people are down voting because Astrology but yeah it just seems like the coming to terms with reality of adulthood. Midlife crisis is later.

pclmulqdq 3y ago

That might be a "quarter-life crisis" not a mid-life crisis. Mid-life crises are usually 45-50.

j0hnyl 3y ago
The American Psychological Association considers middle age to begin at 35.
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- pclmulqdq 3y ago
  That's great, but the crisis in question happened before 35. The psychology of quarter-life and mid-life crises is also very different. See also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quarter-life_crisis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quarter-life_crisis

000ooo000 3y ago

This is similar to my experience (mid 30s now). I remember sitting at my desk at work, staring out of the window, thinking "wow..so this is it". Would've been about 28-29. I think a combination of things got me to that headspace: end of the education-career pipeline, having bought and settled into a house, and having no kids. I reached a point where I was no longer occupied with achieving "my" goals, and I was left to figure out what my life was going to be. I guess suddenly becoming aware of that responsibility isn't very pleasant; before, I was just on the rails society lays out. School, job, marriage, house, kids, career, etc. Easy. I'm not much interested in the pedantic debate taking place elsewhere in here about what truly qualifies as an x-life crisis. To me, it's a point in your life where there's some anxiety associated with the direction of your life. I'm more interested in how people came to think about their lives in and after those moments.

ddq 3y ago
Roger Waters of Pink Floyd was 28-29 when “he realised he was no longer preparing for anything in life, but was right in the middle of it” and was inspired to write the song Time for Dark Side of the Moon (the reader is encouraged to listen to it now). Each individual responds to this realization in their own way.
- lamp_book 3y ago
  "No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun." Tame Impala's Currents is an album written around the same age with a similar theme in mind, and fittingly part of the new guard of psych rock/psychedelia.

hattmall 3y ago

I'm sorry to say I don't think it's struck yet! Not to say what you experienced wasn't real by any means, but I think it just sounds more like a different, but normal thing. The coming to terms with reality after your 20s. I think you'll see another round more characteristic of the mid-life crisis as you all enter your 50s.