Actually it is good when things that do the same things in different apps look the same. How would you like it if every car you drove expressed some inner esthe

Actually it is good when things that do the same things in different apps look the same. How would you like it if every car you drove expressed some inner esthetic of a designer in the way the steering wheel or brakes worked? They don't and for good reason. The utility of the product matters much more than the ego of the designer. I know it's hard to understand this, I had to go through the same thing when I was doing my first Mac product. Eventually I came to accept it, and then it made a huge difference in the economics of the platform. Because the apps had factored the common aspects of their personalities, people could use more apps. This made the market much broader, and made more developers rich. That was also a good thing for developers. :-) This is what change looks like. Every generation of programmers wants to hold it back. It's not fair that you've invested all this in learning how the current layer works, well now it's not current anymore. You have to adapt, or you end up obsolete. Younger developers always say this to the old developers. It's a bit disturbing when you hear it for the first time, about you. :-)