Hey regarding the first “problem” I’m the exact same. If it’s someone new to me who doesn’t know me I’ll often slip it into conversation that I’m taking notes;

Hey regarding the first “problem” I’m the exact same. If it’s someone new to me who doesn’t know me I’ll often slip it into conversation that I’m taking notes; “So you’re saying that the xyz project is going to need abc? Ok cool, I’m just gonna add that to my notes here real quick” - I’ll do that early on a call. Or I’ll read back the important points I took in a real obvious way. I think I do this because it bothers the shit out of me if someone is obviously typing away on slack or whatever and not properly engaging in the meeting and I don’t wanna be seen as that guy