I don't think you understand your personal relationship with someone else until you see how problems get handled. It sucks when you discover they are handled po

I don't think you understand your personal relationship with someone else until you see how problems get handled. It sucks when you discover they are handled poorly. The book "Crucial Conversations" might help some in this situation. It's also possible that there are other issues with management style at play here- being friends doesn't necessarily require a particular management style all the time. In "Thinking Like a Software Engineering Manager" Leadership styles are reviewed (autocratic, democratic, delegative, transactional, transformational, servant). For choosing a style, it states "choosing a leadership style is very situational".