You are letting one ideological belief conflict with another and yet you don't realize it. When you feel strongly about something, don't excuse it like "I think

You are letting one ideological belief conflict with another and yet you don't realize it. When you feel strongly about something, don't excuse it like "I think a lot of the arguments being made here are not applicable and this won't be as big of a deal as people are making it out to be." First of all: are you the person affected by this change? If you aren't, try and imagine being a person that was. If you cannot empathize at all with the other side, perhaps it isn't something you should be arguing for or against. Second: does this vibe with how you would treat someone you normally would disagree with politically, if the position were flipped? Say there is something you think government shouldn't have a say in (apparently not family planning, but you can think of something... guns? business?) then have them argue 'it isn't such a big deal to have to jump through this bureaucratic hoop and the reasons we make you do this is are obviously not as overt as we pretend'. How would you feel about that argument?