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I actually think it's the opposite. There is a hyper-polite culture in the west where people tone down statements: - It's [X] - Have you considered it might b
by blagie 3y ago
I actually think it's the opposite. There is a hyper-polite culture in the west where people tone down statements:
- It's [X]
- Have you considered it might be [X]?
- Is it possible it might be [X]?
- ...
The goal is to not appear overly assertive / confident / arrogant. Once that happens, people start to read subtexts into questions, and all of a sudden, you need disclaimers.
I like direct communications, so I find this obnoxious, but I don't think it's ill-willed or toxic.
- worldsavior 3y agoWhat you're mentioning is good and reasonable criticism. This is not what I'm talking about. You don't have to mention anything and be afraid of what people might say because you don't want toxic behavior towards you. People need to stop. Read, understand, conclude and write. This is basic communication.
- blagie 3y agoThis is basic communication within a traditional setting. There are at least two issues: 1) In a multicultural setting, words written and words read may carry different meaning. Words carry subtly different meanings, and tones and subtexts need to be translated. 2) Unless one takes 2 hours to draft each email, people will misspeak. Miscommunications are part of life. Any process needs to account for that.