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If only positive reciprocity wasn't so easily gamed way too frequently. Its basically given that somebody will use your kidness/help for its own benefit leaving
by majkinetor 3y ago
If only positive reciprocity wasn't so easily gamed way too frequently. Its basically given that somebody will use your kidness/help for its own benefit leaving your with nothing in return. There is number of people I personally know that just let it happen over and over again... Its almost like some good deeds are invisible to some people.
- AndrewKemendo 3y agoThe solution I’ve come up with is to budget for this overage So, some nonzero number of people will screw you over if you are kind and give them a break. Add in a 10% emotional buffer and don’t give away what you can’t lose, as you know that this is going to happen.
- carlosjobim 3y agoThey are in the evil Yin-Yang system of victim/perpetrator that so many people are participating in. The perpetrator feels great about taking advantage of an idiot, and the victim takes pleasure in being the martyr. It's sickening. But it's also stupid and low on a spiritual level. Christianity tried to get rid of this garbage by saying: "We killed the son of God, now the ultimate and last sacrifice is already made". My advice is to steer clear of these people. They will never take any advice to stop being taken advantage of, but will enjoy tremendously complaining to you how bad they've been treated.