The most optimal situation to pick a mate is during college, undergrad or grad school. This other institution has been eroding because of the lack of men going

The most optimal situation to pick a mate is during college, undergrad or grad school. This other institution has been eroding because of the lack of men going to college and excessive tuition costs, i.e., debt, for all reducing the net economic incentive that it once was. The questions they must eventually answer in the affirmative are: 1. Do you trust them implicitly with your life and everything else? 2. Are you better with them than apart? The irreducible problem is: very few people today can or would meet this standard. There aren't that many good, decent, mature, reliable people who are also available and mutually attracted. There are millions of cowardly narcissists working on their sun tans, personal brands, and increasing numbers of people they've slept with without knowing anything about them because they're too afraid to have emotional courage.