> Do you people really put this much conscious thought into their relationships? I can’t speak for the rest of us people, but for my wife and I, yes. Kids intr

> Do you people really put this much conscious thought into their relationships? I can’t speak for the rest of us people, but for my wife and I, yes. Kids introduce such a complexity into a relationship that I can’t imagine how we would support each other’s goals and our shared goals without making them explicitly-stated and all of the ways of doing that openly talked about. Some of it is business-like. Run the calendar, divide up tasks, etc. But some is like: “This (insert goal) is really important to me; is there a way we can make it work?” Not misery-inducing for us.